Save Your Marriage and Improve Your Relationship Today!
Do you think saving your marriage is impossible? You feel you can’t improve your relationship and will soon be taking steps to divorce your partner. Before calling a lawyer try these simple suggestions from noted relationships experts to help save your marriage.
One of the things that hinder couples from trying to mend a rocky relationship is the assumption that the process is complicated and will take more energy, time and effort than they have at the moment. Emotional exhaustion sets in and the thought of saving your marriage via a prolonged and arduous process seems impossible. You feel you have tried everything to improve your relationship so now you feel hopeless.
These guidelines are easy to understand and follow so you can slowly incorporate them in your daily interactions. If you approach it in a slow but sure manner you’ll have the patience to learn the steps to saving your marriage and have that little bit of energy left to enact little changes every day.
These seemingly minor adjustments can greatly influence the tone and health of your relationship. When you improve your relationship gradually you also have the advantage of observing how it affects your partner and adjusting your methods as needed. Gradual incorporation of these guidelines also gives your partner the opportunity to discuss it with you and in turn also slowly but surely take steps in the right direction.
Our first advice comes from the author of “Getting the Love you Want” Harville Hendrix PhD. He tells us to stop blaming, criticizing and shaming each other. For a more constructive discussion between partners ask for what you need in a positive, clear and specific way. Also don’t forget to express your appreciation for his willingness and effort. After all, men as well as women need to feel like they are doing the right thing and when they do take notice.
Next advice for saving your marriage, noted relationship expert John M. Gottman PhD recommends we shift gears and change our habit of being critical of our partner’s mistakes to catching him when he does something positive. You and your partner will be surprised at how this simple shift can improve your relationship and lighten the mood at home.
Another simple reminder provided by Mira Kirshenbaum a famous author and psychotherapist is AAA. When the situation starts to fall apart offer an apology, affection and then act on it. Swallow your pride and apologize for the hurt you have caused or for disappointing your spouse.
Next, show some affection in the form of a kiss or a hug. A gesture of sincerity or warmth goes a long way in a marriage. Be proactive and do something about the situation that is acceptable to your spouse.
Lastly, in order to keep your marriage fresh and invigorated do put in the effort to schedule alone time with each other. Dinner with just the two of you away from the kids is a good start, a long weekend or even just an overnight stay in a bed and breakfast or hotel once every couple of months would go a long way in saving your marriage.